「餵唔到人奶，我真係好無用」、「人人都得，點解係得我兼顧唔到家庭同事業？」、「做到隻積咁都撐唔起頭家，點算好爸爸」、「我真係唔識教」……
聽到朋友咁樣批判自己，我地都會想盡辦法去安慰佢地，甚至好能夠同理對方，因為我地真心明白，餵人奶也好、兼顧家庭同事業也好、甚或喺香港要獨力養起頭家，都唔容易，能夠咬緊牙關撐下去嘅父母，點會一無是處？
之但係，當呢啲聲音唔係黎自朋友，而係我地自己嘅心聲嘅時候，你有無發覺，我地好少會安慰自己，反而會加多兩錢肉緊，批判自己。好似只有自我批評同自我懲罰先可以幫我們做得更好。
但事實係咪咁呢？
參考資料
Longe, Maratos, Gilbert, Evans, Volker, Rockliff, & Rippon. (2010). Having a word with yourself: Neural correlates of self-criticism and self-reassurance. NeuroImage, 49(2), 1849-1856.
Neff, K. (2003). The Development and Validation of a Scale to Measure Self-Compassion. Self and Identity, 2(3), 223-250.
Neff, K. (2003). Self-Compassion: An Alternative Conceptualization of a Healthy Attitude Toward Oneself. Self and Identity, 2(2), 85-101.
Neff, K. (2011). Self-compassion stop beating yourself up and leave insecurity behind (1st ed.). Australia: HarperCollins ebooks.
Neff, K., & Beretvas, S. (2012). The Role of Self-compassion in Romantic Relationships. Self and Identity, 12(1), 1-21.
